We all make mistakes, and sometimes hurt people through our behavior, words and actions – intentionally or by accident.
That’s why we all need to know how to apologize. It isn’t always easy to say you’re sorry, but it’s the best way to restore trust when you’ve done something wrong. Almost everyone has experienced being wronged by someone. It could be a former co-worker, friend, or family member. But hanging on to those negative feelings can do great harm to your health.
What is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness means different things to different people. Generally, however, it involves a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.
The act that hurt or offended you might always be with you, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help free you from the control of the person who harmed you. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
The famous saying goes “To err is human, to forgive is divine”. What makes the power of forgiveness comparable to God? The very nature of humans is to get angry and feel resentful towards those who have hurt us or did some harm to us in any way.
We tend to remember the undesirable actions of others which impacted us and made us feel bad. Forgiveness is the act of overcoming the feeling of resentment or revenge for the person who has done wrong actions.
What are the benefits of forgiving someone?
Forgiveness can lead to:
v Healthier relationships
v Improved mental health
v Less anxiety, stress and hostility
v Lower blood pressure
v Fewer symptoms of depression
v A stronger immune system
v Improved heart health
v Improved self-esteem
What if I'm the one who needs Forgiveness?
The first step is to honestly assess and acknowledge the wrongs you’ve done and how they have affected others. Avoid judging yourself too harshly.
If you’re truly sorry for something you’ve said or done, consider admitting it to those you’ve harmed. Speak of your sincere sorrow or regret, and ask for forgiveness — without making excuses.
Remember, however, you can’t force someone to forgive you. Others need to move to forgiveness in their own time. Whatever happens, commit to treating others with compassion, empathy and respect.
Forgiveness is part of the process of healing and letting go of the past.
Who hasn’t done something to embarrass another person? Who hasn’t used words or actions to hurt our families, friends, strangers, teachers, or neighbors?Who hasn’t lied? Who hasn’t done something stupid? Who hasn’t made mistakes? Done things they regret? Wished they could go back in time for a do-over? Who hasn’t been afraid to ask forgiveness, but instead chose silence? Who hasn’t wished they had said, “I’m sorry,” but now it’s too late?
is the opportunity to share your burden. To admit what you’ve done. Anonymously. To perhaps finally leave the past where it belongs—in the past. Or it could be a huge step toward taking responsibility and the beginning of making amends. It’s more than a confession. It’s acknowledgment. It’s my hope that by sharing experiences, we give others the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and more importantly, to help prevent others from walking in similar shoes. Let’s make a difference. Together. This world needs more compassion. More kindness. More empathy. Forgiveness is a critical step without condoning the act.
For all of us who have been wounded by another and struggled to understand and move beyond our feelings of hurt and anger, Beni-Mendi’s ebook on forgiveness shows that it is possible to heal our pain and find room in our hearts to forgive. Breaking down the process of healing into stages and offering stories of real people’s experience throughout, this wise ebook provides hope and solace for all who long for the peace that comes with forgiveness.